One Friday in January, teacher Taisi Avila, 46, finally got permission to meet her son in a cozy home in the Federal District. Upon arriving at the venue, she and her husband were asked if they would consider adopting Samuel, a child with cerebral palsy and a congenital malformation, due to severe prematurity. Emotionally and without a second thought, the couple firmly declared: “We don’t need to think about anything, we’ve found our son.” Stories like those of the Taicy family help draw attention to the important, if stigmatizing, topic of adoption, which is celebrated nationally on Wednesdays (25/5).
Taisi and her husband Roberto Verissimo Costa, 44, have always dreamed of having two children. After the birth of 13-year-old Kawa Francisco, they entered the adoption waiting list to adopt their second child. During the process, they decided that they would like to have a baby who is smaller than the firstborn, so as not to lose the “position” of the eldest. This was, in fact, the only warning they made. Therefore, in a little less than a year, they received the long-awaited call to meet the new member of the family.
“In pregnancy, we can’t choose anything. We can’t choose whether it’s going to be a boy or a girl. Whether you have any health issues or not. So, we didn’t see any point in making that kind of choice in adoption,” Taicy said. .
Almost immediately, the spouses were warned that Samuel would have problems throughout his life, but at no time did this become an obstacle to the family. They only dreamed of having the little one in the house. “In our house, with the interaction between mother and son, I realized that Samuel would grow much more than I was told. We are looking for more services for him and the developments he has made have been a surprise to everyone to this day,” the woman stated.
“Today, at the age of six, my son studies, sings and retells the stories I read to him, all in his own way. I am very happy to talk about adoption to demystify the process for those who don’t know. Children who are already in this situation have suffered a lot, especially children with Disabled people are hardly adopted. For this reason, it is important to make it clear that they are also happy and bring happiness to their families.”
Adoption in the Federal District
In DF, about 365 people are looking for an adopted child, however, shelters are still filled with dozens of children and teens waiting for a home. This is because most candidates for adoption are looking for healthy children up to the age of 4 years.
In the capital, 387 minors live in comfortable homes, 44 of which are suitable for adoption, according to the National Council of the Judiciary. 38 of them are over 5 years old, which is equivalent to 86% of children who are waiting for a place to rebuild their lives.
Only 2% of the children and teens available are under 4 years old, which makes the wait long and painful. This is where the account is not closed. Demand and demand continue to grow disproportionately.
Despite everything, there are still people who decide not to wait that long, open up a range of options, overcome prejudices and choose a new life through the practice of late adoption, as is the case with 39-year-old Executive Secretary Adriane de Sousa.
Adrien, who was still in her childhood, decided one day to adopt her son. However, upon reaching adulthood, she was surprised by what fate had in store for her. The woman, who dreamed of adopting only one child at a young age, fell in love with her brothers, who are between 15 and 4 years old. After seeing pictures of both in the WhatsApp group, dedicated to people who are able to adopt, the Brazilians were intrigued. “They changed my life,” said the secretary capital Cities.
“The moment I saw my children on the phone, I could not explain the connection I felt. I spoke to my husband, we reached out to those responsible for the children’s operations and informed him that we were interested in meeting them. But their reality made us think about the difficulties of the adopted child. It was my daughter, who is still Young, responsible for taking care of her brother, without having someone to take care of her in her childhood. The feeling of wanting to give her the opportunity to be a child, to be cared for. At that moment, we started to think of a teenage daughter, Adrian explained.
Soon, the couple began the process of adopting children, who could be separated if they did not find a family, and began talking to the little ones on the Internet. One afternoon, while watching TV, they received a video from the children telling them that they had accepted to be parents. We were so impressed that we told everyone about our decision. However, in the meantime, there was a change of judges that slowed the process down. Annoyed, we decided to pack our bags to see our kids. When we arrived, courtesy of the Welcome House Coordinator, my son called us Mum and Dad. “It was a very special day,” said Adrian, who has been granted temporary custody of the children and is currently awaiting an adoption ruling for permanent custody.
“Adoption is not charity, adoption is reunion”
According to the report, coach Wesley Messias, 42, said he always knew he would be a father through adoption. According to the man, the confirmation came after his participation in a sentimental care group at the NGO Aconchego, when he went through the adoption process to finally become a father.
“It is important to know that your child may come in different forms than the biological one. A son is a son and a period. Do not be afraid to adopt children of legal age, they are children in the same way. They have feelings, dreams, pain and above all a history like all beings. Adoption is not charity, Adoption is a reunion,” said the coach.
Wesley is the father of 10-year-old Isaac and 18-year-old Koa. to me capital CitiesHis children said they finally felt complete and defined adoption as a life-changing opportunity.
“I think the term adoption can be defined as a small part of everything. I have never experienced having a father. It was all very new to me. Today I have affection and love and I feel so welcome. Adoption can change people’s lives, not Only for the child, but also for the whole family.”
According to social worker Mariosa Barbosa, 59, a member of the NGO Aconchego, it is essential to talk about the topic so that more people understand the importance of adoption and so that all kinds of prejudice can be overcome. “Adoption is a very possible and necessary path for children and adolescents who are in foster care. Although it is a subject that still faces many prejudices and stereotypes, it is essential for people to see that in adoption, there is a way to raise children as dignified and beautiful as in biological,” he explained Social worker.